Wednesday, May 25, 2016


Now I type this title “HOW TO STAY POSITIVE?” in my best buddy’s GOOGLE  page and I got some 2,74,00,000 answers -  wooooo ; so I guess apart from me there are many else who can tell how to stay positive or the other way round there are many who are in search of answers for this question.
I read a few of those and they were too technical – identify a possible cause; keep a journal; analyze the cause AND I clicked the back button. Like the way time flies, I wanted some sure shot and quick techniques.

When I feel low, I desperately sense the urge to transform my mood and that too by doing something that will refresh me instantly; I guess no one at that point of time when they really feel too low, takes the technical way to stay positive. Those techniques straightway jump to the to-do list for the future for further analysis.

But exactly, if we think on it for a while; we all know answers for both the categories – technical and practical but applying the right technique at right time is the root cause of this whole mess.
So, what exactly we can do to stay positive:

1. Eat something which you really love like Ice cream – it’s the ultimate comfort food unless you are watching your weight. Or pani-puri or some kebab; you of course have a whole world to make a choice from;
2. Listen to your favorite songs; could be the loud one listening to which you feel and imagine that you are taking revenge from the villain of your life; or some soft pace song which can give you peace of mind and heart; 
3.  Dance: you could be a pathetic dancer but how does it matter, you dance for yourself and not for anyone else. Play the tune and dance however you want as if no one is watching; nothing else but watching yourself dance like a ………… will give you a great laugh; (this blank you can fill up depending on your own credibility :-) )
4. Watch Tom and Jerry of course in you tube; its readily available after all; 
5. Just go out and shop; you definitely will be having some item in the back of your mind that you have been planning from long to buy but did not get a chance yet; 
6.  Treat yourself by spending some time all alone doing what you want:  read a book, give your feet some rest by taking a foot bath, head massage etc. You don’t have to go to a parlour, you can do all this by yourself; 
7.  Remember your childhood; see your mark sheets, albums; remembering those good old days will take you to a different world at least for a few minutes and you will realize that life had not been so bad always.
There are many ways to keep yourself in high spirits, it’s just that you have to know which one you want to pick. Always we have to remember one thing that the life we all live is much better than those of many else. So there is no point in cribbing about your problems, thinking too much about the issues and concerns and thus unnecessarily complicating the life. 

Just chill, everything is fine or if it is not fine, it will be fine. Good or bad, time will pass and one has to move on; you can neither hold on the good things or bad things.

Thoda hass lo, muskura lo, jee lo…. Zindagi itni bhi buri nahi . :-) :-) :-)

Saturday, March 12, 2016

YES, I am a working woman.

YES, I am a working woman and by my own choice;

YES, I am a working woman and I might not be the sole breadwinner of a household but yes, I have my own share in bringing up the household;

YES, I am a working woman and of course I still feel the affection for the dependability of bringing a new life to this world;

YES, I am a working woman and I accept the fact to restart afresh and prove myself all over again after I return to my workplace after months of leave;

YES, I am a working woman and I put on make-up and wear ironed clothes and heels but of course that doesn’t reduce my work pressure; I do it because I like it;

YES, I am a working woman and I might have an external support system but I still have a clock running in my mind constantly that monitors all the moves and instances by those external helps;

YES, I am a working woman but I still make sure to enjoy motherhood even in the time crunches and I take pleasure in spending time with my kid as much as any other mother does;

YES, I am a working woman but of course it’s like one more plug-in and not substitute to any of my different other roles that I play from a daughter, a wife, a daughter-in-law and most importantly a mother;

YES, I am a working woman and I carry an attitude of confidence and independence but I am also a loving and caring person;


Thursday, February 18, 2016

Ongoing Disaster

JNU and JU – the two universities where WHAT THE HECK IS HAPPENING is the question I guess every sensible Indian is having in his or her mind. From the starting of the week, I think this has been the topic of discussion in Newshour debate by Arnab Goswami where every time in the group of panelists there are those who I guess for purely publicity need are supporting the students who are protesting in favour of Afzal and traitors like him.

Few students like some virus pop ups start saying , in fact shouting to be precise that afzal guru was a martyr; have they gone mad? They shout anything they want, “cheen k lenge azaadi” and all that; if you really don’t feel like to stay in this country, go away. Who is asking you to stay here? And after all these protests you say that its freedom of speech; wow… as well described in that video (link in the end) freedom of speech means freedom to criticize  that is if you don’t like something, you have all rights to share your opinion about it; freedom of speech does not give you any authority to abuse or threaten anyone. Who are you, you think that you will break the nation into pieces when in reality you don’t have the guts to speak up standing alone and not shouting amidst a crowd of equally illiterate people? Get your facts and figures; do your homework properly before taking such a disastrous step.

All these sequence of events: students useless protests; lawyers taking the law in their own hands and beating up students; and now issues for the proposal of raising the tricolor in all central universities. I really feel pity for those who simply shout without actually understanding the sole purpose of such proposals.

For God’s sake don’t mix tricolor with extreme nationalism……….. I mean  Tricolour is the flag of our nation and not some personal property of any political party or religion. Tricolour represents our INDIA and all INDIANS; why is Tricolour being tagged with being extreme nationalism? I don’t think that there is anything wrong with such proposal of flying the tricolor in all central universities; I think this should have been done many years ago, but better late than never, I feel it’s a great move because such an action will remind all of us that India is our country and we all are Indians, it will help us realize and differentiate between the traitors and martyrs. I felt so sad when General Bakshi became emotional saying that he might be standing alone in this battle but he supports to fly high the tricolor but then Arnab Goswami supported him saying that he is not alone and that we all are with him. And then it was really great to see Smriti Irani calling the newshour herself and telling that how much we, the citizens of India are grateful to General Bakshi and other soldiers of the country like him.

At the end, I just want to say that Guys, you represent the youth of this country; you are an integral part in building the nation but this attitude is surely not going to gain you anything in life apart from few photos in front page of newspaper. Do remember this is the generation of social media; You are always being watched for both good and bad reasons; all moves are being scanned; nothing is hidden. 

Be the genuine and sensible lover of your motherland.

INDIA is my country and I am a proud INDIAN.

Wednesday, January 20, 2016

Caste Battle

Debates going around in all channels for Rohith’s suicide where panelists are discussing or rather putting the blame on each other and trying to encash votes making this a need based issue as required by them. A team of people just trying to throw the ball in each other’s court; the methodology that has been an integral part of our society where only discussions happen and decisions are seldom taken, the root cause of every single problem;  one party trying to prove themselves right and all others wrong.

Student commits suicide unable to bear the despair and what is happening after that …. Only discussions; we all know who is the culprit but no action has been taken yet. Day by day people are trying to create a virtual reality and then using it as a weapon and hence complicating the issue further. Such incidents have happened in past and will continue to happen in future; one state where one person belonging to one caste has been harassed because of the one’s who belong to power.

What the hell is going on, I really feel like to say “Grow up, be genuine, be sensible.” Poor guy suffered injustice and ended his life, do something now; culprits should be punished. For how many more days and years will castes be given more importance than humanity. Why anything should be based on caste wise favoritism? Student should entirely be judged based on his academics profile, on merit; and then if he needs financial support, he should be given; irrespective of whether he is Brahmin or SC or ST or OBC or whatever.

We cannot close the eyes to the fact that in India caste stands a lot of importance; in every damn form we all need to mention which caste we belong to; why such discrimination? These age old norms definitely need amendment. Why caste should be given any such importance? Be it any field; in schools or colleges or offices or anything else; judgment should be entirely based on capability and quality and not because which caste or place you belong to. And it’s not just me, I think this is what the young India wants.

India is our country and let us all just be Indians.

RIP Rohith.